Androgyny

Okay so this isn't really a gender tbh, more of an identity:

So i wanted to create a term that's similar to 'butch' and 'femme' but it's for androgynous lesbians, I've come to realize that the term 'futch' might be offensive? I haven't looked into yet but yeah...overall, the term is honestly treated as a joke. It's rarely ever taken seriously and it doesn't help that most lesbians identify with it just because they like to wear hoodies sometimes (not trying to be rude but its just what i see a lottt). I want to create an alternative to that term that isn't just 'dresses feminine and masculine' but is something that's an identity and a lifestyle. It's why i personally feel a connection to the butch and femme label. From my understanding, being butch is mainly about subverting from traditional womanhood and expressing that subversion through masculinity, and being a femme is mainly about redefining your femininity in a way that is outside of conventionality. If this is totally off, correct me but I really do relate to both of those experiences. It's basically a way of life, and i've slowly come to realize that 'futch' just seems like a fashion choice (no offense). So I have two questions,

1- any ideas on what to call this?

2- is this an useless term or am i just tripping? I've seen a lot of people call terms like 'stem' and 'futch' unnecessary because it just describes 'a regular person'. (seeing those comments felt pretty invalidating too lol)

I don't want to seem like I'm complaining but wow, being androgynous and a demigirl is so isolating. I can't really relate to cis people or trans people for that matter and it makes me feel so alien. And being a lesbian is just the icing on the top. Like will i ever get a girlfriend that will be okay with the fact that im not completely a girl but also gender neutral? or will I even get a girlfriend that will be completely fine with the fact that I'm androgynous? finding someone right for me might be near impossible. and it also just feels like i have to either be a 'femme' or a 'stud' and nothing else, it's like I'm barely even acknowledged as someone who's a stem. I honestly just don't like thinking about this stuff at this rate, it's only going to make me feel alienated and that's something I'm tired of feeling like. I don't wish to be cisgender but It would make my life a whole lot easier.

What is a gender where you are fluid between men, woman, androgynous, agender, and non-binary? But you also technically consider yourself none of these at the same time?

It’s really confusing. Rowan’s gender is fluid between all of the things are listed above, probably some more things, but we are entirely sure on that, but he’s also none of these at the exact same time. He wouldn’t consider himself a man, even he is fluid to a man, and vice versa for everything listed above. Is that just the way he wishes to be addressed? Or is that his gender?

is this just genderfluid and non-binary or is there an actual label for this??

I am going to work and earn a ton of money. This way, I can rent an apartment or buy a house far away from my family. And then, once I'm gone for a couple of years without explanation or communication, I can send them a letter explaining my queer identity. I mean, I already have it written out. I just need to wait until I turn 18 and have enough money for a place to live and to sustain myself.

I'm still scared that, even though I'm not going to be in contact with them, they're still going to disown me. But I mean, if they can't accept who I really am, then they were never my family to begin with.

The plan was to leave for a couple of years without explanation or communication, then send them the letter. When they read it and asked to talk or something, I went, and we reunited, and they called me by my chosen name, pronouns, words, and stuff.

And if they read it and never ask to talk to me, then so be it. They very clearly don't care about my emotional and mental well-being, so never talking to them again doesn't seem all that bad.

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Yeah again I need help with my gender wahoo! :') So basically I just need something that feels somewhere in-between masculine, feminine, and androgynous (specifically in that order of amount that I feel them (if that makes sense cuz I'm stupid)) I still don't know what I am so plz help me 😋🔒👍😭💀🦅🇺🇸🧏🗣️🤫🤬🤠😬😠 EDIT: for more information my gender is static and doesn't move (at least I haven't have it happen yet) and I'm not actually entirely how much of masculine, androgynous, and feminine I am but I know it's mostly masculine

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IDK WHAT GENDER I AM ANYMORE. I KNOW IT'S MASCULINE AND ANDROGYNOUS BUT IDK WHAT IT IS ANYMORE HELP

Also uh my pronouns are just She/Him now (she/her preferred)

SFW?: Implied depressive episode, Gender Euphoria, Self-care

So I did my hair today. Not in a low ponytail, and not just down and brushed, like normal. I brushed it and put it into a high ponytail, pulling the front hair out of my face. Like how Amity Blight has her hair, but mine is way longer. I also want to wear jeans and a nice T-shirt.

You know, get ready for the day. You know, like a normal person. /lhj

I'm just celebrating small victories where I can. This is huge for me.

I'm an aromantic woman today; sexuality is currently unknown. I like it when I'm able to pinpoint my identity. It makes things easier and less stressful.

I just thought I'd share this small victory. :D

-Jayden, She/Her

I found some good brands and i'm almost done with it

yes it's something i decided to do on my own bc i wanted to do it

I'm excited to share it with you all soon

~Ashterlin He/They

I'm Demicis Girlflux, and it's leading me to a struggle with my gender expression...

I explain : I have long hair and I like it when feeling girly, but when I feel more agender/neutral I want them to look androgynous.

I currently attach them in a low ponytail, but I find it too feminine when I'm closer to agender.

The problem is that all the androgynous hairstyles I find online are short, and I don't want to cut my hair...

Anyone has an idea ? I've already seen some things with long hair but they all involve a hat, and I can't be wearing a hat all day long, especially indoors...

So I identify as a demivoidgirl. MOST of the time. Like 67.3% of the time. But then I'm kind of gender fluid, like some days I'm something more masc or femme or androgynous. But like that's the other 32.7% of my life, and it's weird because I don't want to keep being like "Oh I'm a demivoidgirl" but then have those 1-3 days of the week that I'm not.

Help?

Im literally feeling like i should have been/i was assigned male as birth (my parents n doctor thought i was a boy till i was born btw but it probably doesnt change anything) and i feel very feminine most of the time and sometimes i feel more masculine but its rather rare. i also feel gender neutral often. and i feel kinda weird when people refer about me as he/him but i mostly use those in my thoughts because i feel more natural with them and i always did actually, i dont have any problems with using she/her pronouns tho. idk i just really dont know

What kind of pronouns do androgynous people use? Also I would like to know if anyone could explain to me what it feels like to be androgynous. I don’t quite understand, does it mean you have feminine and masculine personalities at the same time? And maybe you would want to express one of them and express the other at a later time, kind of like switching between being feminine and being masculine. If so that’s kind of me. Could you also be more masculine or feminine more than the other? Or could I possibly be feeling something else ( another gender expression ) Thanks so much! Hope this makes sense 😅