Questioning

Lately I've been questioning my gender identity. I'm bigender and it's starting to feel wrong for me...non-binary sounds like me but not entirely. I need some help. Thx!

So I’ve been questioning my gender for years and I’m still confused bout it. I currently identify as androgyne but it doesn’t totally fits.

My gender is kinda like this..I feel masculine, feminine (not male/female), neutral/null and genderless. Everyday is different, same days I’m fem, some masc, some neut, some genderless. Some days it could be a mixture of two or more of these, some times one is more intense then the other (like feeling 1/2+ but one or more feel more intense/stronger then the others). Sometimes it shifts multiple times a day but more often it doesn’t shift for days (sometimes months). Some days it’s all of em and others non of them, at those times I’m just kinda a thing? Not sure how to put it.

I guess I could be considered gender-fluid/flux/fluid-flux., at the same time tho it doesn’t resonate with me. (tho it probs should as I feel like I explained the literal definition of fluid-flux in my own way lol)

Any help and stuff is appreciated. Thanks so much.

So... Basically, I came here because I've had mixed answers on this question.. I was AFAB, but I don't feel like a full woman, if that makes sense.. So, I did some research, and found that the identities 'Neoboy' 'Transgender/Trans-masc' and 'Censari' fit me nearly perfectly... but I don't know if I'd be able to use all the terms above, or if that would seem invalid..

Could someone please clear this up for me, or at least explain it better to me?

Okay so I've been really struggling to figure out my gender lately. I used to use the label genderfluid. And, I think to some level it fits because, while yes my gender fluctuates, it doesn't fluctuate that much. Also, I've been feeling like most (but not all) of the time I feel some form of connection to being agender, like not identifying with gender or having one. But when I feel like more agender I don't really resonate with any of my pronouns/any pronouns at all. SO I just really don't know what label I am or even my pronouns anymore. Please help!!!!!!!!

Hello!

I've been reflecting a lot. I know my transition goals, and what pronouns I wanted, have my name changed, etc. I also use the label non-binary since it's a comfortable label for me.

However I've been struggling, since I mostly don't feel like anything and mostly if not completely whenever I look in the mirror I see someone who's nonbinary, someone who can be androgynous presenting, myself. I also internally used to not see myself as any inherent gender, but that isn't entirely right for me now, as I've discovered. Like I've said I mostly don't feel anything, or just not anything binary, but I also sometimes have moments where I feel partially but not completely male, despite, truthfully, not seeing myself as a demiboy. Or at least feeling detached from the idea. I also rarely want to be a demigirl, but I never feel partially a girl. Whenever I try identifying as it , it feels uncomfortable and forced. I see my brain as androgynous/non-binary, but nothing more. I have had, like changes in my gender identity whete I go from identifying as one thing to another, but nothing felt right or stuck. Except non-binary which does.

Any help?

Alrighty so uhh haha terrifying secret I barely share online: I'm AFAB (terrifying ikr /j). A few years ago I decided to go by the main label of Nonbinary and over time I've tried searching for secondary labels to fill the void that "Nonbinary" doesn't always do.

The most accurate secondary identity I've gone by was probably Genderfluid. My gender switches around a lot and 50% of the time I can't even tell what I'm feeling like. The label of genderfluid has been great for me for a while until recently.

I've started to realize that I feel most confident and comfortable when my fluidity shifts to feeling masculine. Feeling masc has become my favorite gender feeling over time. The only problem is that I don't always feel like a guy and when I don't I tend to get a bit dysphoric.

I'm a bit confused on whether I want to stick with the label of genderfluid or not because even though it's technically accurate I tend to heavily prefer feeling masculine or neutral over feminine.

I still like being feminine, don't get me wrong, but it's more of a guilty pleasure and if I feel it too often the magic of it starts to fade and it becomes a burden.

I've been slightly considering the umbrella term of transmasc but I'm not completely sure. I don't always feel like a guy and I very rarely feel 100% male. Plus since I have a rather androgynous appearance I rarely get dysphoric about my body and I don't think I'd want to transition. I also don't really have anything against being called feminine terms (though I prefer neutral or masc ones and want to change my name) and in general I'm pretty comfortable with my femininity and wouldn't want to lose it.

I don't know it's all so confusing and I'm most likely overthinking it. I'm pretty sure I'll just stick to Nonbinary but I'd like some advice from others too.

Hey, look the title is probably gonna make some people think, oh, you hate us, but no. I am actually proposing the idea that there isn’t more than two genders. I don’t mean gender identity is fake, I mean the amount of gender isn’t really.

So, if gender is really a spectrum, then it doesn’t have numbers, it’s just a number of combanations and places on it.

Also, if gender isn’t as spectrum based as was thought by me, maybe the amount of genders is in the negatives. For many reasons this could be true. First, gender trascends the concept of numbers, numbers are inferior to genders, making gender not bound to numbers and becoming negative. Second, some people have trouble finding gender so limited human gender spectrum is in debt for not giving them a gender, and in debt means the negatives, it’s just math. Third, gender is not about physics, which can be counted. Thoughts cannot be counted in the same way objects can. For example, people say how many times did you think about it, instead of how many thoughts did you have about it. It’s hard to tell when a thought ends and a new one begins.

Idk how to start this but… I’m AFAB but I think I’m genderfluid. I think I’m Genderfae but sometimes my gender feels a little masculine. I also dress really feminine but I am sometimes consumed by the thought of dressing masculine and neutral. My pronouns are also confusing me. My pronouns are she/he/it/they in no particular order. My preferred pronouns change everyday which also leads me to believe I am genderfluid. I get gender envy over femboys and some androgynous people. I have been considering changing my name to something more masculine or neutral. Idk y’all I’m really struggling.

Okay, so basically, I have a hormone imbalance, I've been diagnosed ever since I was 12. Growing up, I never really felt like a girl. I mean, I considered myself a girl, but I also considered myself as "one of the guys" (mainly because I like traditional manly stuff). Anyway, I am fine with being referred to as a girl. I am fine with being referred to as a boy and a non-binary person, too.

I am okay with she/her, they/them, and he/him. Ik pronouns don't always equal gender but I am using this to further solidify my point. My main thing is that I always and/or mostly feel like a woman. Sometimes, I feel like a boy, or a non-binary person, or even an agender person.

My medicine is supposed to be giving me extra estrogen to level my estrogen and testosterone, however it isn't working anymore and the feeling of "Oh shit I don't think I am cis" got stronger and stronger.

Obviously, the feeling stayed, but it kinda like.... "awoken"(?) when my medicine stopped doing what it was supposed to lol. Soooo.... can I call myself Genderfluid or is there another word for this???

Came to the conclusion that I'm genderfluid. and most times I have no idea what I am, unless something indicates what I may be. During these times I think I don't feel anything, but am okay with any honorifics and he/they/she/it pronouns. People can perceive me in any way and I won't mind/care. Either or draws apathetic feelings sometimes, other times I actually enjoy it. It's fun being seen in more ways than one. So I'm pretty clueless.

I'm most commonly seen as masculine, due to having expressed a masculine aligned gender identity a lot in the past. But I'm not a cis man, I am afab. Another thing to note is that I identify with some xenogenders, the ones I identify as have changed except the fact I identify as muscigender. I identify that way because sometimes music makes me want to be a gender and feel like a gender, which one varies. Also clothing makes me feel like specific genders and/or want to be said gender, even though I know gender presentation doesn't equal gender. I'm also quite into the concept of xenogenders, and would like to experiment with them. Sometimes I see gender as colors, or moreso my own gender.

People on AVEN agreed I may have more to figure out, when I stated missing questioning. I know I like dressing feminine, but I can't get any other clothes to experiment with. I'm still unsure of what more there could be. I feel kinda incomplete. I don't know if genderfluid is the right term for me, then again others would believe I am because my gender identity/how I identify myself changes a lot.

If anyone could help, what does this mean? And if genderfluid no longer fits me, then should I drop the label?

I don't really feel like any gender, mostly, nor perceive myself as any specific gender. It's hard to see myself as having a gender. However sometimes I feel more masculine, and more feminine. I occasionally want to be a demigirl. I envy people who identify as demiboys. I envy men and nonbinary people, at least presentation wise. Moreso masculine gender envy. I usually get uncomfortable being referred to with feminine words and pronouns since their tied to my agab. Either that or I just feel weird or indifferent. But I ultimately feel genderless most of the time. Even when I think I feel something, I reflect and take a look and can't really seem to see myself as a man, or woman. Seeing myself as feminine is easier since I am afab. My partners think I'm genderfluid or both a man and a woman.

Am I an agender person who's both masc and fem?

Is there a gender which is both fully enby, and fully girl? I am something that and I am too lazy to create an identity with it's flag and symbol TuT.

-Socially, I want to be seen as both a feminine guy and a masculine girl. I don't wanna be in-between them I just want to be seen as one of the other

-Presenting, I tend to vary when it comes to my gender expressions. I love dressing like a guy but I also like dressing like a girl. Usually I end up dressing neutral.

-To me, I have a love hate relationship with gender. Sometimes I experience a lot of one specific gender but other times I barely feel like I have a gender

-I keep going back and forth with gender identities, specifically genderfluid, demiboy, transgender, demigirl, agender, mirrorgender, inmirrorgender, etc.

-I'm fine with they/he/she pronouns

-love hate relationship with my chest, feeling happy about looking like I have a flat chest then suddenly wanting one

Please help. Idk what I am anymore and I'm too lazy to look for an identity. Any help is deeply appreciated. Anyway, thanks for reading! Have a great day!

I looked at my activity and noticed I made one intro in September, interacted with another post once and then just left until I decided to actually look furthur into my gender (and sexuality on another wiki).

Anygays, hello! Im Cascabela but I prefer to go by Cas! I've still not figured out what in this world I am but this is how I identify so far:

• Pansexual

• Genderflux

• Nonbinary

• Questioning (both sexuality and gender)

On the lines of genderflux, I usually tend to stay either totally nonbinary or leaning towards the more feminine side, although I never fully identify as a boy or a girl.

I plan on being more active in the future! You can ask me any questions (interest related/nothing too personal) or vent to me if you ever need a safe space :)

-Cas, Any Pronouns (They/Them Pref.)

One of my ocs needs a gender and the other needs a name

Leo needs a gender

Rn they're gender is genderqueer/questioning and they're amab but i kind of want something more specific. Also I might need a new sexuality for their boyfriend who is currently gay depending on what gender I decide on.

This one needs a name:

I made him recently but idk what to name him.

I am AFAB, and I currently go by any pronouns. I really have no idea what my gender is, but I want at least one label so that I can put what I feel into words. What I'm about to write is kind of just an info dump of what I've been feeling over the past month. Also, potential trigger warning for descriptions of the body parts that differentiate the sexes, and Christianity/religion.

I present kind of female, I guess? I own feminine shirts, I have longer/feminine hair, and I have large breasts which I don't try to hide, all of my own volition. I wear mascara sometimes, and I occasionally dress super fancy with flowy dresses adorned with plastic gems, but I don't do it because it's feminine, I just want to look nice, both for myself and for society's standards. I have very Christian parents who force me to attend church twice every week, and force me to wear a skirt/dress every time. I hate wearing skirts 95% of the time, and I'm not entirely sure why. I like wearing pants, and would only wear those if I had the choice.

I'm fine with being referred to as 'a girl' or 'she/her', but 'female' sounds gross to me. I really don't care how other people refer to me besides that, though. I have some qualms about being referred to as a man, but it wouldn't bother me that much.

Whenever I take a 'for fun' quiz, and it asks me to choose my gender, I always hesitate. I end up choosing woman almost every time, though.

Even as a young child, I've wanted to have been born in a male body (specifically have a penis), but I don't think it's because I have a masculine gender. I just generally think that life would be more interesting/fun/easy if I was born a man. However, my ideal body would be to have no genitalia or breasts. Recently, I've started to hate my breasts and vagina, but I'm not sure if it's because I don't like my body in general, or if it's due to gender identity.

I hate how everything on society is based on/separated by gender. It creates unnecessary divides between cis girls and boys, and unfairly forces nonconforming people to choose one or the other.

I've recently been taking a lot of gender quizzes, but none of them give me a good answer. I've gotten agender multiple times, but I've tried the label before, and it doesn't feel quite right. I've also gotten genderfluid a handful of times, which I only slightly identify with. My gender seems to move and rearrange itself, but I have no idea how to identify how it moves, or where it goes.

I try to avoid using gendered language as much as possible. I make characters/OCs, and I avoid having to gender them for as long as possible.

I'm really not sure which parts of me I would identify as male or female, man or woman, boy or girl. I know that there's a difference, but I'm not completely sure what it is, or if I even have either of them in the first place. But saying that I don't have a gender sounds wrong and sends me into a little bit of a panic. I feel like I have gender in some capacity, but also not.

In the past, I've identified as cisgenderless, a demigirl (and other feminine agender genders), and I've considered being gendervoid, but nothing has sticked for very long.

Also, whenever I feel gender envy, I feel it towards fictional men, such as Bezel from Chikn Nuggit, or Bill Cipher from Gravity Falls.

That's most of my feelings that have been springing up over the last 3-4 weeks. If you think you know what's going on, please give me some help! If you think multiple gender identities could fit, list as many as you can. I will feel so much better when I have something to describe how I'm feeling. I appreciate any advice and help!

Where one's is questioning their Gender, but feels disconnected from most Female aspects.

Hi ppl I need help by someone more experienced in gender than me :)

Basically, everytime I've always been a girl. No problem with being perceived as one, no problem with the pronouns, especially bc in my language we don't really have neutrals. But, as soon as I start to think about my gender, I don't feel a girl 100%. I think about they/them and he/him pronouns and I feel euphoric. And the degree of how "not girl" I feel changes, like sometimes I would feel for the majority a girl, other times at all. But again, this happens ONLY when I think about it.

Like for example, while filling a form I would check the female box without even thinking about it, but then if someone ask my pronouns I would start to question everything.

Or again, a person could tell me that I am the funniest girl they know, and I could just say thank you. But instead if I particularly notice the "girl", it just feels wrong

I feel like a could be some kind of mutogender? Idk, for sure I don't vibe with xenogenders.

If u have any idea pls share them and help this poor confused person. Also, if my description resonate with more than 1 gender link all of them, as I'd really like to be informed with also similar genders.

Thank u so much for reading, and for helping if that's the case <3

I recently started questioning my gender and I'm utterly confused. I like presenting feminine at times and others masculine or something I just want to look androgynous. to look androgynous and masculine I want to have the feeling of being flat chested I but I don't want to say I'm a guy or non binary just look so.

I'm so tired of all this denial, i can't keep forcing myself to be cis. I feel like a girl but i also feel nonbinary, i wish i could accept this; but I'm so afraid of the judgement I'll face for feeling this way, I'm also not sure of how I'm supposed to tell my parents, it's all so complicated. Cisnormativity is kicking my a$$ rn dude, does anyone know how i can just accept this? Like frl