All posts by 6LUMPEDL0SER

Soo I'm FtNB and a transandrogynous demigirl, I want to know if y'all have any tips on how to look more androgynous but also feminine at the same time? (if that makes sense)

So I've recently came across a gender modality called Adgender (which is something that i really identify with) and I'm thinking about adding it to this wiki but when i was trying to write about the history behind it; it seems like the term might be disrespectful. I had went to the original post that coined the term and the person had added some examples of what identifying with adgender could be like. There was a few criticisms on those examples + the term as a whole and after reading them, I'm starting to question whether i should add this or not.

These are the criticisms i saw:

https://www.tumblr.com/skinfeeler/189998009375/queer-buccaneers-admasculine-transitioning

https://www.tumblr.com/trnsmsgny/671186708440743936/queer-buccaneers-admasculine-transitioning

Is this like offensive? I ask because 1- I wanted to add this to the wiki, and 2- I really identify with the term myself

Okay so this isn't really a gender tbh, more of an identity:

So i wanted to create a term that's similar to 'butch' and 'femme' but it's for androgynous lesbians, I've come to realize that the term 'futch' might be offensive? I haven't looked into yet but yeah...overall, the term is honestly treated as a joke. It's rarely ever taken seriously and it doesn't help that most lesbians identify with it just because they like to wear hoodies sometimes (not trying to be rude but its just what i see a lottt). I want to create an alternative to that term that isn't just 'dresses feminine and masculine' but is something that's an identity and a lifestyle. It's why i personally feel a connection to the butch and femme label. From my understanding, being butch is mainly about subverting from traditional womanhood and expressing that subversion through masculinity, and being a femme is mainly about redefining your femininity in a way that is outside of conventionality. If this is totally off, correct me but I really do relate to both of those experiences. It's basically a way of life, and i've slowly come to realize that 'futch' just seems like a fashion choice (no offense). So I have two questions,

1- any ideas on what to call this?

2- is this an useless term or am i just tripping? I've seen a lot of people call terms like 'stem' and 'futch' unnecessary because it just describes 'a regular person'. (seeing those comments felt pretty invalidating too lol)

So I already know that I'm a demigirl and I'm happy with it but i also feel like my gender is androgynous as a whole too, like it's more than just presentation for me, i feel like i have a strong connection to androgyny. I feel like my gender is both masculine and feminine simultaneously. (These feelings don't fluctuate or anything like that btw). I've tried looking into androgyne but the definition i saw for it was 'simultaneously being a guy and a girl" and that doesn't apply to me. I guess i want to ask if there's a term that applies to this experience? If there is none, then that's okay too lol, I'm just curious tbh

I don't want to seem like I'm complaining but wow, being androgynous and a demigirl is so isolating. I can't really relate to cis people or trans people for that matter and it makes me feel so alien. And being a lesbian is just the icing on the top. Like will i ever get a girlfriend that will be okay with the fact that im not completely a girl but also gender neutral? or will I even get a girlfriend that will be completely fine with the fact that I'm androgynous? finding someone right for me might be near impossible. and it also just feels like i have to either be a 'femme' or a 'stud' and nothing else, it's like I'm barely even acknowledged as someone who's a stem. I honestly just don't like thinking about this stuff at this rate, it's only going to make me feel alienated and that's something I'm tired of feeling like. I don't wish to be cisgender but It would make my life a whole lot easier.

Can y'all use he/him pronouns when referring to me in the replies? I wanna see if i like it or not, You can refer to me as Vy or Azrie btw..

Edit: i kinda like it! thanks