I‘ve been struggling with labeling myself for a while. Finding a little box to fit myself in just makes me feel safe?
I thought demigirl was the right one but then I stumbled upon fingender and I thought - hey, this is pretty spot on as well. Like a nice addition to demigirl, yk? Making it more clear.
I feel feminine, but I wouldn’t label myself as a woman - I like feeling and being seen as feminine, but I dislike being seen as a woman and all the social norms, stereotypes and expectations that comes with it. Sometimes I feel more masculine but I wouldn’t say I’m male either. It’s a wonky space in between sometimes. But it’s like 75-80% feminine, definitely. I use she/her/ they/them. Other terms I use for myself are greysexual, pansexual(-romantic) and polyamor.
Then I saw a line in demifemme that said „Unlike demigirl, demifemme can fall under either the fingender umbrella or the fiaspec umbrella depending in the person.“ Fiaspec mentions demigirl as a gender that falls under that term so I am very worried that demigirl and fingender is a thing that normally wouldn’t go together? Like… I know that if I personally feel like I identify with both of these of course I can use them as my label, but I am always afraid of making mistakes and stepping on other people‘s feet, so…
Also wondering if I’d count into the enby spectrum, technically. I don’t know if I wouldn’t describe myself as enby since I still feel very fem.
Gender is so confusing sometimes. Can anyone help me sort out this mess?