I’ve just been having a lot of mental health issues they’re greatly affecting my daily life and I don’t really want to project that onto anyone. I also have school. It’s my senior year and since I’m graduating early I have to double down and work twice as hard to get my work done. Which means I already haven’t been pretty active on here. I’m probably coming back around March? Something like that.
— Jayden (they/them)
If you feel drawn to the label "genderfae," it’s important to remember that labels can be inclusive and subjective. The key is to use the label in a way that feels right for you, without appropriating experiences that aren’t yours. If you feel that genderfae represents your experience of femininity without embracing masculinity, then it could be a valid choice for you. Ultimately, using a label should be about comfort and authenticity.
Can I add you? https://en.pronouns.page/@ImRowan
Cool! This has been the exact same thing I’ve been doing every day since school started!
Androgyne is more about a blended or in-between identity that can be fluid and may not strictly align with the binary.
Male-Female emphasizes a dual connection to both identities, allowing for a more pronounced experience of each, either simultaneously or in flux.
That's awesome!!! I'm glad you have an amazing girlfriend!
That's so cute! I wish I had the money to get me come clothes like that!
Also, did you cut your hair? or is it in the beanie? I could swore you had longer hair the last time you showed a pic of your clothes!
One of the many office ladies sat with me and asked me that she knows I want to be called jayden but it’s not on the school thing that they are allowed to call me that, so she was going to call my mom. She asked me about pronouns, and I said I don’t care what people call me, just only tell my mom about my name. She said okay. I'm still worried she’ll mention my pronouns. Which technically I don’t have any because I don’t care what people call me.
I’m still really scared though. Mom has started to hate my chosen name because people other than her are calling me it. So mom might have a negative output in the is. I’ve told her about changing on the school register and she got pretty upset and me.
Why does everyone at this school think I’m a trans man because I have a boy name and dress as a boy hahahaha!! But no seriously, I don’t understand why people think I’m a trans man (he/him) when I just have a gender neutral name and dress unisex.
I’m Jayden, non-binary, bi, and dresses unisex with any pronouns no preference.
Every day I watch as my grades get lower and lower…
^Yeah, this has actually been happening for a while now: me saying something, then someone questioning that thing, and then me having no idea what they’re talking about because I have no memory of saying that thing. My body just blurting something out (our mother asked what we wanna do on our hamburger, and the body just flirted out mustard, even though I eat mustard!). Me having no memory of doing certain things. It’s weird and sort of disorientating…
Apparently I just cleaned my room. I have no memory of that. All I did was organize some boxes because my hair dryer wouldn’t fit and just leaving it on the floor was a safety hazard. But suddenly the other stuff on my floor is gone and put away in the dirty clothes basket. I’m not joking. I have no memory of this at all. I didn’t black out; it’s just a memory gap, ya know? It’s just something missing. Like a page ripped clean out of a book.
Hi! My name is Jayden or Rowan (no preference really)! I am a non-binary man, aego aroace, Omni, and monoflexible. My pronouns are he/they/vae/zhey/star (it’s funny we almost have the exact same pronouns!). It’s really nice to meet you, I hope you enjoy your stay here!
Maybe…?
So, my gender has been feeling incredibly weird lately. Way different than it usually has. It doesn’t feel like a man, or a woman, neutral, or nothing like it usually does.
right now it feels kinda like the vastness of space that’s filled with beautiful stars. This has been happening for a few days and I’m not entirely sure what it is, and I haven’t found any labels that I particularly like.
— Jayden (they/he/star)
I was joking no hard feelings lol
^^wanna be the emo to my grunge? /j /lhj
I mean, I present however I want! I tend to dress unisex with a more masculine lean. I personally believe that clothes and make-up do not have a gender and can be worn by anybody! Everybody in my school thinks I’m a transgender man just because I tend to dress more in clothes that can be worn by either a man or a woman but are mostly worn by a man. I mean, technically, I’m not a man (gender is confusing /srs, don’t @ me /silly /lhj).
I tend to dress in whatever clothes make me the most comfortable. Which is usually jeans and a hoodie or sweatpants and a T-shirt. Which is technically considered clothes that are mostly worn by a man/are socially seen as masculine. And that, combined with my name, Jayden, that’s 99% a man’s name, tends to make everyone think I am a man. Which I genuinely don’t have a problem with. I don’t care how people perceive me.
Sorry for the rant /gen this has actually been a very weird and confusing situation that has been recently popping up in my life. I just needed to get it off my chest considering the fact I can’t talk about this with anyone I know IRL.
What about elderly non-binary (or just elderly queer) people?
I'm thinking about making the MC's foster mother, who's in her mid-60s, non-binary, gender non-conforming, or something of the sorts. Would that be interesting to see? I haven't seen much elderly non-cis characters or people IRL.
Thank you for sharing your story, Moth. I'm sorry for your losses.
It's completely normal to grieve in different ways, and there's no "right" way to do it. Everyone experiences grief differently, and there is no timeline for how long it should take. I myself have been grieving over a past lover/best friend for the last 7 years and it's been off and on with how bad it gets. Just take your time. It will pass when it needs to. /pos
Your anger towards your parents and the situation with your teacher is also 100% valid. It's important to address your emotions and communicate them appropriately. I hope things get better for you! Sending internet hugs your way (if you are comfortable with it) 🫂🫂🫂
It could be anything lgbtqia+ related you wish was represented in the media more, it can be good or bad! I just need some more fun ideas to make my boring AlloCisHet world more fun.
— Jayden (he/she/they/star)
